Meeting January 9, 2020

Our monthly meeting  is this Thursday, the 9th, at the Community Church at 7:00. It’s going to be another interesting one with a presentation by three Sisters of St. Joseph who have responded to the call to help migrants at the Texas/Mexico border. They’ll show us a video of the actual situation down there so that we can gain a clearer understanding of the obstacles those who are seeking asylum face and learn how we might help them. Please join us. We should all be aware!

Also, for those of you who are interested in our Diversity Discussion Group, the book Just Mercy is waiting for you at the library. Please find it at Reader’s Services upstairs. Just ask for the Action Ridge book. I have to be truthful. It’s a disturbing read; but we Action Ridge folks are able to face the truth about what happens to people of color all to often in our country, at the border and in the courts. So pick up the book and join the discussion on January 22nd at 7:00 at the church.

Forge on, in spite of all that frightens us. Nan

October 16, 2019 Meeting Minutes

Meeting was called to order at 7:05 PM by Liz Swanson.

7:00-8:30–Discussion of the book Polarized with the authors, Paris Donahoo and Keith Parsons

Keith M. Parsons is a professor of philosophy at the University of Houston-Clear Lake. He is the author of nine previous books including It Started with Copernicus, Rational Episodes, and God and the Burden of Proof, as well as articles or chapters in the American Rationalist, Oxford Dialogues in Christian Theism, The Oxford Handbook of Natural Theology, and other publications.

Paris N. Donehoo recently retired as the senior pastor of First Congregational United Church of Christ in Elgin, Illinois. He has also served as a chaplain and bereavement coordinator for Hospice of West Suburban Hospital in Oak Park, Illinois, and as an adjunct professor in the Doctor of Ministry in Preaching degree program at Chicago Theological Seminary. He is the author of one previous book and articles in Christian Century, Christian Ministry, and other journals.

Paris Donehoo was former pastor of Park Ridge Community Church. He joined the discussion in person. Keith Parsons joined the discussion by phone.


  • Our friendship. Met in first grade. Got back in touch and found that while they had gone in different directions, they had more in common than differences.
  • How the book came to be.
  • This is not a book attacking the current administration’s policies. Reasonable people can disagree over the best course of action to take on any number of issues.


  • Truth is something you speak. Tell it like it is.
  • Truth is something you practice, living in congruence with professed values.
  • An authentic life is one lived in conformity with your deepest commitments and values.
  • To live authentically also means embracing uncertainty, since our deepest commitments involve both choice and trust.

What happens when that choice is made in a vacuum, or without reflection, or from selfish motives (either consciously or unconsciously)?

  • A post-truth era.
    • Nothing new about politicians and others who lie.
    • Been going on since the serpent presented “alternative facts” in the Garden of Eden.
    • We come to the assumptions we want in order to suit our own purposes.
    • Problem now is the “echo chamber” of social media and the 24 hour news cycle.
    • We don’t have to test assumptions anymore. There is always someone who will confirm our suspicions.

If you start from a position of mistrust, you will usually find malevolent intent behind any statement or action you don’t like.

How can we find common ground?

  • Don’t take the bait of those who just want to argue.
  • Be humble.
  • Hold yourself and others to rigorous standards of truth.
  • If you are a Christian, become more Christlike.


  • “Bless his/her heart” justifies any critical description.
  • Truth sometimes conflicts with civility.
  • Disagreement without demonizing is the goal.

Ridicule and Humor

  • Ridicule only the powerful, never the powerless.
  • Ridicule people for the bad, stupid, or dangerous things they have done, not for what they cannot help.
  • Don’t base mockery on offensive stereotypes such as those about race, ethnicity, gender, or sexual orientation.
  • Observe the limits of taste and decency even when you ridicule (Roseanne Barr and Samantha Bee did not observe the limits.)
  • The Smothers Brothers ridiculed LBJ who agreed that politicians need to expect ridicule and humor at their expense.
  • “The Devil can do anything except laugh.”

Breakdown of Civility

  • Nothing will change until each person realizes he or she contributes either the survival of civility or its demise.
  • Civility and civilization derive from the same Latin root.

Restoring Civility

  • There has never been a “golden age of civility” to which we can return.
  • Be civil toward each other.
  • Practice self-control.


  • The vision of E Pluribus Unum versus American love for individualism causes confusion.
  • Much of what passes for community is actually pseudo-community.
  • “In everything, do to others as you would have them do to you” (Matthew 7:12)

Community Breaks Down When

  • Sustaining enmity becomes more important than achieving anything of mutual benefit.
  • Individuals and/or groups cling to power at all costs.
  • We revert to tribalism.

The problem is not politics. The problem is partisanship.

Achieving Community in a Fractured Society

  • Talk to each other.
  • Create communities of Objectivity.
  • And Communities of Discernment.
  • Act “righteously”.


  1. How can humans develop empathy for each other? A. By finding out about people. Try to encounter them in other than a confrontational context. Find common ground, ways to work together.
  2. How do you maintain hope? How are we going to get out of this mess? A. I know that the institutions of this country have great strength as long as we continue to support them. Democracies are fragile unless we insist on supporting our institutions. It takes participation; we need to roll up our sleeves and get involved. (This is what Action Ridge participants do.)
  3. How do you have a conversation with someone if they don’t even believe in facts? A. Would be helpful if we could restore respect for science. Not a lot to do when someone has a closed mind. Continue to be willing to have the discussion with those who are open to it.
  4. How to maintain civility when someone is offensive (racist, sexist, misogynistic)? A. Ask a few gentle questions to draw them out. Get them to see the foolishness of what they’re saying. “What if you were living in El Salvador and MS13 was trying to recruit your 12 year old…..would you consider trying to get to the US?” Try to get them to see the people they are condemning as people.
  5. When you feel contempt from someone you’re talking to, how do you handle that? A. Try not to react emotionally. Keep the conversation loving. Take the time to listen.


8:30-8:45—Overview of actions since our last meeting

  • Equity Discussion Group meeting planned for Wednesday, October 30th from 7:00—9:00 (Note that we can meet at 7:00 and for two hours in the church library),

Discussion of the book So You Want to Talk about Race, which is available at the Park Ridge Public Library (on hold in the reference department).  Will also discuss where we go from here, how to take action.

Plans for upcoming meetings:

  • Review of Gun Violence Prevention actions by Joan Bludeau LaVelle
    • Law passed Gun Dealer Certification Law – NRA planning to fight in. Wrote letter on behalf of Action Ridge.
    • Fix the FOID. When taking away a license, make sure they take away any guns.
    • Association for IL School Board – will have vote about arming teachers and staff in November. Call all districts (64, 207, etc.) Vote no on resolutions 1 and 3.
    • From League of Women Voters:

Action Needed: Call your Elementary and High School Superintendent’s office and leave the following message: “My name is _____ and I am [a resident of the School District and/or parent of a child in _School]. Please convey my request that our School Board instruct our School Board delegate to the Illinois Association of School Boards (IASB) vote “NO” on Resolutions 1 and 3 during the conference in November.” Last year, the Resolution on Arming Teachers was defeated by only 24 votes, so your input is ESSENTIAL. For more info click here.

  • Upcoming Get Out the Vote and Voter Registration Actions from Barbara Murphy Sanders and Marilyn Novak
    • Get out the vote – Get voter registration lists. Are we a legally documented political organization? No, so we cannot get electronic lists. If we get the lists we can call people to get out the vote.
    • Will try to set up registration events at Triton, Harper.
  • Ranked Choice Voting efforts update by Pat Lofthouse
    • Oct 5 – Fair Vote IL met. Ideas for targeting different groups – Rotary, Lions, etc.
    • Targeting Black Caucus, Asian American Caucus, Election Committee.
    • Claris met with LWV PR and Oak Park.
    • Victor Shi (Activist at Stevenson High School) met with Deerfield LWV.
    • Laura Murphy has introduced the bill – officially October 26 and it will be available online. Used Hawaii’s bill and changed it to IL.
    • – all info about Ranked Choice Voting
    • com –
    • Next meeting November 2. Roden Branch, Chicago Public Library, 6083 N. Northwest Highway. 11AM
  • October 21, 5:30 – 7PM Sponsored by League of Women Voters, Chicago.
    • Christian Picciolini, former extremist and author, and Maureen Loughnane, Executive Director of Facing History and Ourselves Chicago, will discuss white nationalism in our own backyard, how we can be alert for it, and what we can do about it. If you’d like to go, contact Kristen Olson.
  • More information from Kristen–Do Not Stand Idly By – bought stock in Smith and Wesson to go to inventor meetings, force votes to do research on gun violence.
  • Park Ridge Women Interfaith Breakfast – Saturday, October 19. Contact Kate Kerin or Catherine Inserra if interested in attending.

8:45-9:00—Suggestions for the November and December meetings

  • Workshop with Sarah Dennis and her colleague from SURJ (Showing up for Racial Justice) on November 14th
  • A social get-together on December 12 to celebrate our almost three years of action —toys accepted for the Institute for Non-Violence
  • January 9, possible presentation on the subject of Immigration.

The meeting was adjourned at 9:12

September 12, 2019 Meeting Minutes

Minutes of the Action Ridge Meeting
9/12/2019 – 7:00 PM
Community Church, 100 Courtland, Park Ridge, IL

Presentation of Ranked Choice Voting by Claris Olson and Pat Lofthouse
• Explanation of the process of RCV – Claris and Pat prepared an excellent PowerPoint presentation that is posted along with these minutes on the Action Ridge website ( Choice Voting 09.12.2019

• In the United States, most elections are Plurality based where the candidate with the largest number of votes wins. In close elections a candidate may win with less than 50% of the votes. In that case, the Winner does not represent most of the electorate which leads to increased voter dissatisfaction and decreased voter participation in future elections.

• RCV elections are Majority based where the winning candidate must obtain 51% of the votes. This encourages inclusion where most of the electorate is represented and leads to increased voter satisfaction and voter participation in future elections.

• For example: Under RCV when there are four candidates for an office, the voter indicates their First, Second, Third and Fourth choice. When all the votes are tallied the candidate with the least number of votes is eliminated. The ballots where the First choice went to the eliminated candidate are examined for their Second choice and then applied to the remaining candidates. This continues until one candidate achieves 51% of the vote and is declared the winner.

• Why is RCV important?

• RCV will help protect against the promotion of a ‘spoiler candidate’ for the express purpose of ‘splitting the vote’.

• Candidates are elected with a clear mandate.

• Voters can vote their conscience versus trying to guess who is the most electable.

• Avoids costly runoff elections like the 2019 Chicago, Illinois mayoral election.

• RCV can be easily implemented on new voting machines or adapted for older voting machines.

• What’s being done legislatively

• Six states, all caucus states, use RCV in their Primaries.

• The State of Maine used RCV in the 2018 Congressional Election.

• Maine will be the first state to use RCV for the 2020 General Election.

• RCV is constitutional as it was upheld in Maine.

• Illinois is working to get RCV passed in 2020 for use in the 2024 elections.
• What can those who support the concept of RCV do?

• Send Illinois State Senator Laura Murphy an email thanking her for supporting RCV.

• Sign up for RCV Action Alerts via email or text.

• Sign up at or on the Illinoisans for RCV Facebook page.

• Encourage friends and/or organizations to invite an RCV speaker.

• Volunteer to staff an event to educate voters.

• Share posts about RCV on Facebook.

• If the United States changes to a National Majority Vote, thus eliminating the Electoral College, that will take effect and RCV is not needed.
Review of Summer Activities by Nan Parson
• Book Discussion on What It Means To Be White—Last meeting on September 25th covering Chapters 11-18.

• Taste of Park Ridge – Action Ridge members helped sell tickets and manned a table providing literature and answering questions,

• National Night Out – Actions Ridge members spoke with people about Illinois’ Red Flag Law. Sara Knizhnik from Illinois Council Against Handgun Violence thanked Action Ridge for our support of the Red Flag Law.

• GPAC supports the 9/25/19 Anti-gun Violence Rally in Washington, D.C. – Father Michael Pfleger has arranged for 10 buses leaving from St. Sabina.

• Affordable Housing and the Comprehensive Plan—Respond to Park Ridge Wonderful – Kristin Berg and Nan Parson to meet with Jim Brown, Park Ridge’s Director of Preservation & Development

• Core Leaders’ Meeting – All 16 members were present! Decisions regarding choices of future programs will be made by more than one person.
Future Meetings
• Next meeting date changed to Wednesday, October 16th.

• Discussion of the book Polarized with the authors, Protestant minister Paris Donehoo and atheist philosopher Keith M. Parsons. We can hold different opinions and have respectful discussions.

• November and December meeting suggestions, thinking about the Holidays

• One suggestion is to have a Social in December.

• Focus on the elections

• Voter Registration

• Getting Out the Vote

• Partner for Marilyn Novak in these efforts – Marilyn is a leader in registering voters. Voters registered at Brookdale in Des Plaines, IL.

• On-going Gun Violence Prevention Efforts
• Do we want leaders for different areas of interest as was first conceived?

• Current active topics include Gun Violence Prevention, Equity, Voter Registration, ERA, Green Living.

• Let Nan or Liz know if you have a passion to lead a topic.
20 People in Attendance on a night that included a Democratic 2020 Presidential Candidates Debate.